Living the stressful life we all live it is inevitable to hit a wall at one point and realize things need to change. Unfortunately, not all of us can sell our Ferraris (The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari) and hit the Tibet mountains, soul-searching our way into the better, brighter and more fulfilling future. Still, that doesn’t mean we won’t give the best of ourselves to change the present as we know it.
Obsessed with work, recognition and in a constant chase for acclaim and improvement, we often forget to take a step back and take a look into ourselves, nurture our souls and feed our spirit. Good life is the little things – a smile of the person you love, your favorite TV show, a hug, a talk and a glass of wine with your significant other, waking up to someone’s smile, your kid’s first drawing… but, in order to notice all the good things and recognize them as treasure, you first need to be in peace with yourself.
Going back to yourself is not a short, neither an easy journey. After all, it took you so and so to become distant to the spiritual person you used to be. So, now – you’ll have to build yourself up again. But once you are there, at the point where you actually do appreciate life for everything that it is – you’ll know you’ve found peace.
Here are some of the ways to help you get there. Remember, no rushing – it’s a process.
Accept who you are
Often, we live our personal projections of who we think we are without even realizing it. We tend to create an idea of who we believe we should be and completely neglect who we are indeed. If you gave your real self a chance, you’d be surprised to find a completely new person underneath all the society-imposed shoulds and shouldn’ts. The key to being happy is truly knowing yourself.
Don’t apologize for who you are
Even though we were all raised to believe a certain personality type is right and the other one wrong, the truth is – every single person is an individual and there is no person with the same qualities anywhere else in the world. Cherish your uniqueness and love it. Don’t ever apologize for everything that you are. If anything – celebrate it!
Believe in yourself
No matter how tacky this may sound but believing you are capable of achieving things is one of the first steps to happiness. Yes, it is amazing if you’ve got the support of your loved ones but the first and ultimate support you need to achieve greatness is the one you give yourself. Believe you can attain it, and you will.
This ancient technique of achieving inner balance has for a reason endured for so long. Meditation will help you take a step back from yourself and see the problem in its real light, as objectively as possible. It will help you get a whole new perspective on things that seemed difficult and hard. Meditating for a few days a week in your yard or at the local park will do wonders for your mind.
Find a few minutes at the start of your day to collect your thoughts, appreciate life and organize your day calm and stress-free. Every day can be like going to a spiritual retreat, if you make it so.
Care for others
Self-centeredness is the quality of the vain, shallow and unhappy. Let yourself think of others for a change. Treat them like you would want to be treated, in every aspect of life. Remember how much your best friend wanted that book? Buy it for him and enjoy the joy you’ve given him. You know how your mum always complains about you never making it for Sunday lunch? Make it. In giving, we are finding happiness.
Remember when you were a kid and you were only allowed to get a candy if the homework was done? Well, grownups are no different than kids. Our brains are wired on the principle of action and reward. So, set goals for yourself, achieve them and reward yourself. It will feel amazing! Or, if you’ve been overall satisfied with your recent actions, business achievements, or anything else – reward yourself in a way you know you’ll enjoy.
Sophia Smith is a freelance writer from Brisbane, Australia with huge interest in fashion, beauty, graphic design and well-being. She could be described as beauty addict and life lover. She writes in mostly beauty related topics, mainly through blogs and articles. Sophia is regular contributor at High Style Life on topics related to beauty and lifestyle.
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